There is a lot of truth to the old saying, "You never get a second chance to make a first impression." When people look at us, they begin to process us through various stereotypes and experiences to make a decision about who they think we are regardless of whether that is right or wrong. It's natural. It happens.
About thirteen years ago, I began a new job at an insurance company. I met a girl there who was a few years older than me, dish water blond hair and a major attitude. Since I am typically the warm and fuzzy type, it was hard for me to work with her. She was blunt, abrupt, and hurt my feelings on a regular basis.
To protect the innocent, I will call her Wanda.
One day she made a rude comment along with a rude gesture to me. I snapped, and it was the beginnings of a beautiful friendship. I think I earned her respect that day, and I realized she wasn't as rough and tough as she might portray.
You see, I try and get along with everyone, and most importantly, I try and understand people and where they might be coming from in life. Everyone has a story. Everyone has walked in a different set of shoes. Where their shoes have traveled can ultimately shape them into the person they become.
My first impression of Wanda, you ask? Heifer.
For you northerners, that doesn't mean a lady with fat ankles. You southerners need no explanation of what makes a heifer a heifer. A heifer is someone you see as, well, unpleasant to put it nicely.
I spent some time getting to know Wanda. I got to know her story. I inquired about her life, and low and behold, she grew on me. I appreciated how she didn't beat around the bush. I appreciated how she put it all on the table and would honestly tell me her thoughts without adding extra sugar to soften the blow.
Don't get me wrong, we all need a friend who can be comforting when we need them to be, but we also need a friend who will tell us, in love, how it is. I know if I want honesty, I can ask her. And she trusts that I will receive her words in love and not bite back. I value her role in my life.
I am so glad I gave Wanda a second chance and spent some time getting to know her. She is one of my closest friends.
Psalms 44:21 says, "Would not God search this out? For He knows the secrets of the heart."
No, we are not God. We can't completely know another person's heart, but we can emulate Jesus and spend some time trying.
God puts us in the path of people. People that can inspire us. People we can inspire. Is there anyone you need to give a second chance? They might make an unexpected difference in your life.
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